Transactional Analysisby Len Horridge
We realise that, by reading and understanding this topic, you have demonstrated that you are adult enough to take the concepts further yourself without much more help from us!
But, in summary, below are a few guidance notes.
- Think about your transactions, your response to others and the reactions you get
- See where you can improve, change or simply tweak your performance to get a better or simply different response
- If you have trouble in a transaction, use this as a method of analysing the transaction, seeing what you say, seeing what they say, and seeing if a change could kick start a better transaction. You may be dealing with a child; you may be dealing with a parent; you may be dealing with an adult.
- Are you choosing the right state to respond to them? Will they change? Can you change? Will Transactional Analysis help?
- You can practice all of this in the ‘real’ world as well as the business world (notice how you are treated when you go to see your parents and how you treat your children, for example).
Above all, practise it. You will not need it in every situation, as many transactions are complementary and both sides are happy with their roles, but change your style and you most certainly can change the response you get.